We are all damaged somehow.
My best friend uttered that statement in chat a few days ago. It broke my heart, but it also rang true. And it’s really true in the current Internet drama being played out at Itty Biz and elsewhere, involving internet marketers Naomi Dunford and Dave Navarro.
A few days ago, Naomi posted a hair-raising article on her web site about several men who, via their web sites, were cyber-bullying a successful woman blogger and even went so far as to say that the blogger had received death threats. She titled the article Death Threats and Hate Crimes, Attacks On Women Bloggers Escalating, making it seem as if many women bloggers were being targeted, threatened or bullied. And the fact is that she herself is the sole target of these threats, if I believe her. But to flag-wave as if this is a problem for all women bloggers, to make this a call to arms for all women bloggers does all women bloggers, all women, and especially all women who are legitimately being abused, threatened or silenced, a huge disservice. Thanks, twat.
Don’t dress this up to be a societal problem when in fact it’s a problem of your own making, Naomi. Readers, I’m not going to rehash the particulars of what seemed to be the catalyst for this latest Internet drama, you know how to Google. I will say that every action has a reaction, cause and effect. Something I would imagine an internet marketer has more than a passing acquaintance with, and certainly knows how to exploit to his or her advantage.
In short, as a woman, and as a woman business owner, Naomi’s attempt to dress up her current predicament as something about which all women bloggers or women business owners should be concerned (“They’re coming after you next!”) is pure nonsense and just a thinly-veiled attempt to throw her detractors off her scent. Women bloggers and women business owners out there who are not sleeping with their business partners, short-changing their affiliates or wrecking a home or two likely have nothing to fear from Naomi’s hate-mongers. This is something best left for the parties involved to sort out, if any of them have connected brain cells. And if the rest of us have connected brain cells, we’ll let them.
Adultery, infidelity, broken homes, broken hearts, this is nothing new. It’s the fabric of life sometimes. While that behavior is certainly distasteful to many, it’s hardly shocking to anyone within the sound of a reality TV show, and it DOES NOT EVER deserve death threats. Even so, this is not about a torch-carrying mob out to burn the town witch. It’s not about a woman blogger being silenced for her writings, thoughts or opinions.
For that reason (and not because I don’t honestly believe that death threats of any kind are wrong), I won’t be retweeting any further IttyBiz or Naomi Dunford pleas, I won’t be posting any warnings on my FaceBook wall or web site. This is all you’ll hear from me about it.